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Unlocking Emotions Through Sound: A Journey of Liberation

Working with the sounds of our voice is fascinating, amazing, and astonishing. We are often taught from an early age to be quiet – we are told not to cry, that there is no reason to cry, or that it would be embarrassing to express our emotions, our feelings, be they sad or happy. We might have been told we would make ourselves the centre of attention, take up too much space. And that it is unpleasant for others. But what happens to these held back, never fully embraced and expressed emotions and feelings in our bodies? Just thinking about it makes my body rigid and stiff, and my breathing becomes shallow.

I’ve always loved singing. I dreamed of becoming a singer and being able to express all my feelings I had held back for so long, feelings of sadness, anger and frustration for everyone to be seen and noticed. As a teenager, I started playing the guitar and singing along. I had a particular fondness for emotional and melancholic songs and found solace in their melodies and words. Although they enjoyed listening, family and friends sometimes asked, “Can’t you sing happy songs?” But for me, these soulful, melancholy melodies and lyrics helped soothe some emotions that needed to be heard and expressed.

Over time, I realised that there were so many overwhelming emotions and feelings inside me that singing a song, however soulful, was not enough to release and transform them. The song, the words gave them a general and understandable form of expression, but they were also a kind of limitation. It often felt as if a huge reservoir of held-back emotions were being squeezed through a tiny keyhole or a narrow window.

In my thirties, I participated in a training course called “Soul Voice®”, which intrigued me very much. Here vocal sounds were used as tools for expression and healing. At first, I was ashamed to participate in this type of sounding. I thought to myself, these people are all crazy. But now I am happily one of them.  Little by little I learnt to trust my original vocal sounds and to use them to express what is. It led me to emotions, feelings that had been suppressed for so long and allowed me to express them, to give them space. It rarely sounds nice. But once the emotions have found their way out and have space to unfold, to be heard, harmony emerges. It’s a bit like in having an argument with a partner. Bottled-up emotions are let out and it is stressful, disharmonious. When everyone’s opinion has been heard and felt seen, a new, much deeper harmony is created. The emotions are not stuck anymore but vibrate freely and also release the tension in the body.

And the greatest thing is, we always have our voice with us. It is free. It is always available. No formal training, no singing degree needed, no need to be able to hold a note.

Today, I used my vocal sounds to tackle my fear of writing, and to dismantle the internal expectations that restrict my creativity. And voilà…

For my clients, there is often a longing to be able to express themselves, to take up their space combined with the fear of vulnerability to do so. Yet, when they discover a safe space in our sessions where we together explore and release their long-held emotions, a new world opens up. The resonance of their voices becomes a bridge to healing, a path toward authenticity.

So, let us sound, moan, or even growl our truths.

For within those sounds lies liberation—the sweet release of emotions held captive for far too long

Nurturing Yourself and Your Inner Child

 

Nurturing Yourself and Your Inner Child

In the whirlwind of our fast-paced lives, it is easy to get caught up in the chaos and get lost. The demands of the outside world create feelings of overwhelm, disconnectedness and emotional drain. But there might be a way to find a little peace and love whenever you need it. Let’s talk about how you can tap into this nurturing energy.

 

Getting Grounded

First things first, take a deep breath. Close your eyes if you can, and just feel your body. Your feet on the ground, the rhythm of your breathing, the tension in your body, just be aware of what is, acknowledge what you sense and feel.

 

 

Finding That Nurturing Vibe

Imagine now being wrapped up in a warm, loving energy. This can be a maternal or grandmotherly energy, an animal or whoever you want to be held by. Maybe it feels like a big, cosy blanket of support where all is well. Do you feel overwhelmed, or disconnected? Just wanting to cry or to be angry,…? This is the space where you can express that, where you can be and feel as you do in this moment, without judgement, but with love and support around you. In this nurturing space, there is no need to hide or pretend. You can show everything because you know you are safe, you are listened to and you are loved.

 

Your Inner Child Needs Some Love

Or imagine your inner child, the part of you that holds all your emotions and memories, especially the vulnerable things. How does it feel at this moment? Imagine holding your inner child and giving it that warm, loving energy, like a caring parent. You are there to listen, to be, and to provide a safe space for whatever comes up. Maybe it doesn’t want a hug? That’s ok too and you can just be there for it.

Whenever you want, you can return to this nurturing place. It’s like a little sanctuary that you keep with you whenever you need support, the inner chatter is negative and you need a hug and you want to feel surrounded by love and understanding.

 

I love these moments of self-care. Sometimes I want to sink into the arms of a nurturing energy or sometimes I feel that my inner child has taken on too much or has been triggered and I want to be there for it, to give it love and space. Space to express what is bothering it at the moment.

At first, it may not be easy to hold the space for the emotions, because problem-solving seems so much easier. But it doesn’t work that way, and it doesn’t help to validate the child’s feelings, your feelings. Many ‘adults’ want to fix things, but it’s actually a distraction not to have to deal with it, because it’s hard to be confronted with intense feelings and still be present. Most of us have never been taught or modelled how to do that. But it is very beautiful to realise that being there, observing and holding the space is so immensely healing and rewarding, and creates connectedness.

I created an audio with my voice which supports you tapping into the nurturing energy or the feeling of being nurtured. Please feel free to listen to the audio.

 

 

Let the nurturing begin!